Tip of the Day 4/30/12

I am not a shopper in the sense that I hate having to shop for something specific. Trying to find the perfect dress for an occasion frustrates me, but window shopping and coming across the "perfect" dress is fun. I love to cook, but unless it is a stroll through the Farmer's Market, grocery shopping is not fun to me and that is why I only do it every six months. I do love to garage sale and come home with awesome finds. But there is a key to shopping successfully and keeping your house from being cluttered, only buy what you really love. An occasional purchase of something you don't need is not going to be clutter if you truly love it. The key is this that it is occasional, not weekly or it will soon be clutter. The pair of pants that is on clearance is not a good deal unless you love them and they fit. The juice set I purchased on a whim was not a need, but I love it and use it. Discipline yourself to shop for things you love even when they are a need and you will not have buyers remorse.

Word for Today, Anchor: If you are a boater you are well aware of the importance of having an anchor on your boat. A fisherman has a difficult time staying in one location without an anchor and would not be very successful catching fish. The explorers examining wreckage of old ships would have a tough time if their ship kept drifting from it's targeted goal. When we were first married we lived on Lake Shasta in northern California. We worked at a resort where Richard was responsible for initiating the houseboaters with the boat they were renting. The anchor was a vital piece of the equipment if they wanted to stay in one place for the night or to fish or swim. It is amazing how big a ship can be held with just one small anchor. God describes Himself as the anchor of our soul. Without Him we drift and end up tangled in the mire and muck. Don't cut yourself loose from the Anchor that will protect you from harm. "This is the hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast."

Tip of the Day 4/27/12

Now that we have streamlined the kitchen and pantry by getting rid of duplicates, unused items, and broken or unliked items it is time to do the same in your linen closet. It is very practical to choose a neutral towel and sheet color that can be interchanged and used in any bath or bedroom in the house. Accessories are easy to update and don't require purchasing all new linens or changing the colors of the walls. Each person has an idea of what the neutral color is that will work in their own home. For years blue was my neutral, it was in every room of the house. Today my neutral is red. It runs throughout my home flowing from one room to the next. White is not the most practical neutral to choose especially with young children. Do not go out and buy all new linens, but as you need to replace items begin to re-build in a neutral color. Until that time, reduce what you have by getting rid of paper thin sheet sets with no elastic left in the corners, towels without any pile left, and the avalanche of blankets that fall out on you when you open the door. There is NO need for more than two sets of sheets per bed. Determine if you really need 6 towels per person. Environmentally you should be using your towels at least twice. While one set is being laundered, there is a second set to use. Along with an extra set for guests and you have minimized the linen closet clutter. Be ruthless as you go through the linens. Just like with clothing, if it hasn't seen the light of day in a year, it goes.

Word for Today, Images: For the past few days I have been going through photographs, sorting out ones to send to my daughters. It is bitter sweet as the memory of childhoods gone by and loved ones no longer here pass before I my eyes. Photographs can stir up happy memories, they can reveal truths, and cause us to wish for days gone by. I wish I still fit in my clothes from 20 years ago and am happy to think I still like how they looked (well, most of them anyway). I look at pictures of old friends and am grateful to still have so many still in my life and others that we have recently re-connected through social media. As I look at the pictures of my girls growing into beautiful young women, I am grateful to see their smiles. Throughout time man has attempted to give us a "picture" of our Savior. But there is not one that shows us his real physical image. Thankfully God knew that everyone that loves His Son would want to know what He looked like here on earth, just like every proud parent wants to show the world how beautiful their child is. So, God painted a picture of Jesus for us and it is found on every page of the Bible. Just like a blind person doesn't have to see the face of the one they love to know them, we know our Savior. "He is beautiful beyond description, too marvelous for words, too wonderful for comprehension, like nothing ever seen or heard. Who can grasp His infinite wisdom, who can fathom the depth of His love. He is beautiful beyond description. Majesty enthroned above." And I stand in awe of Him.

 

Tip of the Day 4/26/12

I have a confession to make, I am a shoe-aholic and a kitchen gadget junkie. I love them both. Walking through a kitchen supply store is so much fun and I always see something I just know will be a great tool in my kitchen. I do have some really useful tools I have picked up over the years, but also have some that have only been used one time. I keep them sorted into locations that are sensible for usage, the pancake turner style spatulas are next to the stove, the bowl scraper style spatulas are near the Kitchen Aid stand mixer etc. It is a good idea to go through these items and pare them down to the ones you actually use and place them in the most accessible spots in your kitchen. I would like to suggest a few really useful tools for you to consider for your kitchen. These are based on recommendations from a professional chef that Richard and I took cooking classes with and they have changed my abilities in the kitchen. They make cooking more fun. A good set of knives and a steel are vital. You do not need 10 different knives, Chef Ali recommended four and we are able to cut and chop everything with these, a large blade and medium blade chopping knife with a curved blade for proper chopping, a serrated blade, sometimes referred to as a bread knife, for slicing everything from bread to meat, and a paring size. An immersion blender and mandolin are two tools that will simplify many tasks and can take your cooking skills to a new level. I also recommend a good heavy duty stand mixer like a Kitchen Aid, a food processor, and blender. The small tools are really determined by your cooking style, a garlic press is fine if it makes you more comfortable, but the side of your knife works just as well. I love my egg slicer and use it often, but it is not a need. More tools will not make you a better cook, but the right tools and appliances will help. An organized kitchen will be one of your biggest assets. Take some time today to clear out the unused items and look forward to cooking in a well organized space.

Word for Today, Hands: Years ago I remember seeing ads in magazines showing two pair of hands and you were supposed to guess which pair was the mother and which was the daughter. There was also an ad campaign for many years for a dish washing liquid that was supposed to not just clean your dishes, but soften your hands. Many women, as a final act before going to sleep, smother their hands in cream hoping to stave off the aging process. I always loved my Mom's hands and hoped mine would remain as beautiful and soft as hers as I aged. Hands represent strength and gentleness, a firm handshake or the gentle touch of a mother checking a child's forehead for a fever. It is interesting that God's hands are mentioned many times in the Bible. They represent the ultimate gentle yet firm hand. We are held up by them, our lives are written in the palm of them, they created the world, they touched the lame and blind to heal them, and children were touched and blessed by them. Those hands were also nailed to the cross as Jesus died for you and me, pierced through and torn on our behalf. The scars remain and someday we will look upon them. "The Lord upholds him with His hand."

Tip of the Day 4/25/12

We have cleared out and pared down the dishes and glasses, now it is time to tackle the pots and pans and baking dishes. If you love to cook it is very easy to end up with cabinets full of them. There is a reason pans are sold in sets, these are the basic 4 or 5 pans any cook will use. The type of cooking you do should determine what you add to your collection. Go through your cabinets and ask yourself when the last time was you used each pan or baking dish. If it has been years, or never, it is time to get rid of it. If you have forgotten you had it because your cabinets are so full, or think you might like to try making a cheesecake in that springform pan, put these items on a shelf together. As you use them put them in a permanent area. At the end of six months if it still has not been used, it is time to get rid of it. This is similar to putting your clothes in the closet with the hanger backwards until you wear it. Because I cook a lot I like having a wide variety of pans and baking dishes. I have ramekins and I have a lasagna pan. I have a cast iron skillet and mini-loaf pans. I also have an electric skillet, rice cooker, wok, and crockpot. I have varying sizes of skillets and one each of a lot of sizes of baking dishes. I use everything I have and the reason I do is because I can see them all and easily access them. If you have ever watched a cooking show you know the kitchens are set up with open shelving. The cooks can see exactly what they need without digging through dark cabinets. We do not live in a large home and do not have a basement, so I set up shelving in the garage with all of my baking dishes and have a shelf in my pantry for all of my electric appliances. I can see them and access them, so I use them. Determine a spot in your home that you could set up open shelving or consider clearing some shelves in your pantry for this purpose. Get rid of duplicates. You do not need more than one of each piece. Layer cake pans and ramekins are an exception of course. I used to have four 11 x 13 baking dishes because I make a wide variety of casseroles during the holidays. Space constraints and sensibility told me I only need one. During the holidays I purchase aluminum pans and don't have the storage issue any longer. Before anyone gets upset about environmental issues, I recycle them, use them for taking a dish to someone that is ill, use them in craft projects, etc. I don't just throw them away. Take the time to seriously evaluate each of the items you have been storing and either start using them or move them out.

Word for Today, Name: Parents-to-be spend nine months contemplating the right name for their child. It is a monumental decision. Before I was born my parents considered naming me Victoria Lynn. It is a very pretty name, but I can't imagine it being my name, I'm pretty happy with Dee Ann. Of course there are always people who decide they really don't like their name, my Nanny hated her middle name and changed it. Others go through phases and do something silly like changing their name to a symbol or deciding they will send a message to the world with a name that represents a cause or feeling. Because our girls were already named when they joined our family we did not choose any of their names We asked the younger ones if they wanted to change their names, Timberlie said no, but Desrie', the 3 year old, said yes she would like to change her name to Leona. I'm sure that is a fine name for someone but we told her we would stick with Desrie'. She is glad we did. One of the nicest things about all of the girls names is that contained in each of them are names we had considered. Our oldest and youngest have my middle name, Ann, another has a middle name we had chosen, Rene', and the other has two names we had chosen, Elizabeth Kay. I have always believed God is into details and even our names are important to Him. He told many parents in the Bible what to name their children because they would fulfill a particular role in history and their name reflected that role. He still speaks to parents today about the right name for their child. We are told in the Bible that when we die we will be given a new name that only God knows. I can't wait to find out what my Heavenly Father has chosen for me. As I wait for that day I will praise the Name that is above all names. "You shall call His name JESUS, for He will save His people from their sins."

Tip of the Day 4/24/12

Glassware of every shape and size, plastic kids cups from restaurants, adult cups from sporting events, coffee mugs, and water bottles are overflowing in America's kitchen cupboards. We grab a clean one every time we get a drink and use different styles for different types of drinks. I have a large variety of glassware because I like to use certain ones for certain drinks. I rarely drink pop at home, but when I do it needs to be in my pink Eskimo Joe's stadium cup. It just tastes better. Milk is always in glass, never plastic, and water is in the red cups because I keep one sitting out and it matches my kitchen decor. We only drink British tea from a set of mugs we were given as a gift; I know exactly the right amount of sugar and milk needed in those mugs. Several years ago I cleared out all of the unwanted plastic cups, partial sets of glassware, and ugly coffee mugs. I purchased some acrylic stem ware hangers like you see in bars and restaurants and hung all my pretty stem ware under my kitchen cabinets. They were very inexpensive at Bed, Bath, and Beyond and they look great in my kitchen. We re-use the same cup all day for water and drink our tea every morning from the same cup. Everything fits in one cabinet and an avalanche does not fall out of the cabinet when opening the door. It is another space that I could proudly have a glass front door. Take 15 minutes and clear out all your excess and enjoy the freedom of being able to access the cup or glass you need, or WANT.

Word for Today, Visit: One of my favorite things as a child growing up in Colorado was a visit from family that lived in Oklahoma. My sister and I would stand at the door watching for the car to pull into the driveway. As an adult living away from family I anticipate those visits still. Having someone you love make the effort to come visit you is such a pleasure. We clean and bake, make plans for fun things to do together, and prepare a comfortable place for them to rest. When the visitors leave we are always sad and feel an emptiness. One set of my granddaughters that live in Chicago always put the windows down as they drive off down the street and wail very loudly. It is a funny tradition they started many years ago, but there is always sadness when they drive off. 2000 years ago God sent His Son, Jesus, to visit us. He stayed here on earth for three years and when He left to go back home His followers were broken hearted. They cried and tried to make themselves busy to not think about Him being gone. These days we have pictures, and letters, and email, and Skype to keep us connected to those we love that are far away, but Jesus' followers didn't. But Jesus wanted to stay in constant contact with them, so He moved into their hearts in the form of the Holy Spirit. The glorious thing is He lives the same way in each of us that believe in Him. Have you made a comfortable spot in your heart for Him to visit? He will "never leave you. God will surely visit you."

 

Tip of the Day 4/23/12

Since beginning Dee-Clutter I have been asked many times where I get my information, was I professionally trained, etc. All of the information I share with my clients, groups I speak to, on my Blog, and on FaceBook is what God shows me each day to share. They are lessons I have learned from over 35 years of running my own home and always wanting to make it more pleasant and comfortable. I read a lot and am inspired by other peoples ideas, but the tips I share are my own. If they are from another source I always acknowledge that. Life is short and should be enjoyed not frustrate us. So, I feel led to give tips beyond basic organizing on how to live a fulfilling life in a comfortable environment. That is why my Blog is sub-titled "Tips for everyday living." I am also asked if I actually do the things I post. The answer is a simple, yes. I always tell groups I am speaking to that if I don't know from experience I shouldn't be offering the advice. This week I will be giving some common sense kind of basic tips on how to live a simplified life. Less is more and here is the first tip on how to do it. Get rid of all the extra sets of dishes in your cupboards and basement. Choose your favorite that can be dressed up or down. I have never owned a set of china. If you do, and you love it, then use it. Currently I have a set of Corsica in Fiesta Ware colors. I add a charger, nice napkins and stemware to dress it up or we eat sandwiches off of it with paper napkins for everyday. I have a small set of china plates that were my Mom's and I use them for some occasions. The key is, I use them. I also have a set of Holiday dishware that I use from Thanksgiving through New Years in place of my other dishes. Get rid of those extra sets, partial sets, and hand-me-downs that you never use. You could end up with cupboards worthy of glass front doors.

Word for Today, Home: I have always wanted to have a house full of children and be a homemaker. Even though I was unable to bare children God saw fit to bless us with our daughters and now our grandchildren and great grandchildren. He also blessed me with the privilege of staying at home to home school them and make a home of our choosing. My being able to do so was the fulfillment of a promise a precious older woman in our church shared with me from God's Word back in 1982. Every time I read that verse I am overwhelmed by God's faithfulness. The verse was in my daily reading through the Bible this morning, and today I saw how God has continued to fulfill that promise, even though we are now empty nesters, by allowing me to help others through Dee-Clutter. It doesn't matter if you live alone, are male or female, have 5 kids under age 10, are just starting out in your first apartment, or have lived in your house for 30 years, we all desire a comfortable home. We are all called to be home makers. But don't get too comfortable, soon we will be moving to our forever home that God has been working on for over 2,000 years. He is the original home maker and and it will be spectacular. "He makes the barren woman the keeper of the home and the mother of many children. By the grace of God I am what I am."

Tip of the Day 4/21/12

It is Saturday and today should be a day to play. Start the day by everyone doing a quick walk through of the house picking up out of place items. Enjoy a leisurely breakfast or brunch. Do something fun as a family or with friends. The time we have to step back from the demands of life is too short. Don't waste this day you have been given, you can never get it back.

 Word for Today: Steps. Since all of our daughters were adopted, the youngest at the age of three, we did not get to see them take their first steps. So, getting to see several of my grandchildren take their first steps was a very big deal. We were visiting one of our daughters in California when our first grandson took his. We were sitting in the living room with some friends who were also visiting and our daughter had left the room, and while playing with the baby he took a couple of steps. Our daughter came back in the room and he took a couple more and she exclaimed, "his first steps!" We all looked at each other and none of us said he had already taken a few. We did not want to steal that joy from her. The joy on her face was priceless. Of course after that baby takes those steps we encourage them to take more and more. Many falls are taken and usually some bruises happen, but we keep encouraging and they keep trying. If a child is not walking around the age of one the parents begin to worry. No parent purposely keeps their child from standing and walking, we give them clear paths and safe corners, and cheer them on. They trust our outstretched hands beckoning them to take another step forward, we offer comfort when they fall, and help them walk in safe paths. Our Heavenly Father also cheers as He watches His children take steps of faith, He picks us up when we stumble and fall, He comforts us, and He shows us the best paths to take. The key to it all is trust. I know He will lead me in the best way even when I can't see a way through. The children of Israel could only see the Red Sea before them and the Egyptian army gaining on them from behind, so by faith Moses stepped into the water and then the Lord parted the sea. Is there some water you need to step into? Come on, you can do it, just take that first step. Your Heavenly Father is holding out His hands and beckoning you. "My foot has held fast to His steps; I have kept His ways and not turned aside."

Tip of the Day 4/20/12

It is Friday and I hope you have something awesome planned to cook for your friends and/or family this weekend. I thought I would end this week with a couple of easy recipes from my cookbook that even a novice cook can prepare. Happy cooking and dining.

Fiesta Foods
2 Cups Sharp Cheddar Cheese-shredded
1 small onion, chopped
1 (4 oz.) can chopped black olives
1 (4 oz.) can chopped green chilies
1 (8 oz.) can tomato sauce
1 T. oil
1 t. Worcestershire sauce
Flour tortillas, thin pizza crust, or french bread.

Mix all ingredients except tortillas, crust, or bread. Spread mixture on "bread" choice; place under broiler just until cheese bubbles.

Serve with salad.

Easy Tandoori Chicken

4 small boneless skinless chicken breasts
1 Cup plain yogurt
2 t. each cumin, garlic, and paprika
1/4 t. pepper

Mix all ingredients except chicken in a 1 gallon ziplock baggie. Add chicken; place in refrigerator for at least 30 minutes or up to 24 hours. Remove chicken and place on a broiler safe pan. Broil until a crispy crust forms, turning once.

 Serve with Basmati rice, Progresso Lentil soup, and Naan bread.

 Word for Today, Separate: When people look at Christians they often see one of two things, those that have separated themselves from interaction with the world and can come across as self-righteous or those that claim to be Christians, but don't look or act any different from anyone else in the world. It is so easy to be caught in either of these traps as a a Christian and yes, they are traps. We have been called to "be holy, for I Am Holy, says the Lord" but we have also been called to live in the world, just not "of the world." It is a fine line and we each are responsible to determine what that line looks like in our life. No one can tell you what is right or wrong except God's Word. It is the standard we as Christians are to live by. This is why it is important to know His Word and be taught what it means. Pastors are only human, but we trust they have been called to share and teach God's Word to us. I am happy in my life and confident in who I am because I have chosen the path that is right for me; to live what looks like, and means, separate to me. I hope you will find that place that is right for you. "For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us."

Tip of the Day 4/19/12

Hopefully some of you have decided after reading my tips that home cooked meals really are worth the effort and are planning to try cooking something new this weekend. The biggest obstacle is the fear that it might not taste as good as you hoped, or it won't look like the photo, or it will be to difficult. Well, the only way to learn to cook is to just do it. My Mom was an incredible cook. We ate wonderful meals every night, not gourmet, just good home cooking. The only problem was she liked to do it herself and my sister and I only peeled and mashed potatoes or made the salad. My Grandma Hanks was also an incredible cook, but again it was all basic good home cooking. I really didn't have much actual hands on cooking experience when I got married. I had taken "Cooking" in Home-Ec, but I think we just looked for the easiest thing to prepare for a good grade and my real love was sewing. During high school we visited the home of a friend who was a Home Economist and I was so impressed with the "Watermelon" dessert she made from a honeydew melon and red jello that I wanted to try making some "adventurous" dishes. So, when I got married I just took the Betty Crocker cookbook I received as a wedding gift and started cooking whatever looked good. Were there failures? LOL There are still failures today, but I keep trying new things. Most of the time my hubby and taste buds are glad I tried. So, go for it. Step out of the routine. Get the kids or your hubby involved. Invite a group of friends over to cook together. Your taste buds and budget will be very happy you did.

Word for Today, Veil: Throughout history we have seen the use of veils to hide or separate. One of the most well known stories in the Bible is when Jacob is tricked by his father-in-law so that he marries his oldest daughter, Leah, instead of the daughter Jacob loved, Rachel. This was accomplished because the bride was veiled until the couple entered the marriage bed. In more recent western culture the veil worn by the bride was to symbolize her virginity and was lifted from her face at the end of the ceremony by either the father of the bride or the groom himself allowing direct access to the bride. The "price" had been paid by the groom and now a relationship without restrictions was available to the bride and groom. They have the full access to one another without anyone or anything separating them. What a beautiful picture of the Christian life. Jesus, our groom, paid the price for us who are called, "The Bride of Christ" by His death on the cross. The moment that price was paid the veil in the temple that had separated us from direct access to God (only a high priest was allowed behind the veil into the Holy of Holies to meet with God on behalf of all the people) was torn in half from top to bottom by the very hand of God. We are not talking about a flimsy piece of cloth, the veil was at least 4 inches thick, 60 feet high, and 20 feet wide. It took the hand of God to tear it open. And now anyone has access to spend time with our loving groom, Jesus. He must really love us to have paid such a high price to spend time with us. How could you say no to this man? "The veil of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom. No one comes to the Father except through Me. The way into the Holiest of all."

Many of you have asked how we go about only shopping every six months and where the inspiration came from. Here is the where and the how. I hope you are inspired to give it a try as well. If you would like a shopping list like I use to accomplish this goal, it is included in the cookbook I compiled, "Dinner's Ready 1-2-3" which you can purchase here.

A Year Without Spending (adapted from an article by Mary Hunt)

Eric and Donna Reed shop for groceries and household products only once a year. How on earth? I know. That was my reaction, too.

The Reed’s got the idea after reading a column in USA Today, wherein the writer confessed to his weakness when it comes to buying clothes. So driven to buy new sweaters, slacks or shoes every time he stepped inside a clothing store, publicly he announced he was giving up buying anything for one full year.

Eric and Donna wondered if they could do the same. Their minds went to the grocery and discount stores, the mall and Amazon.com. And what about restaurants, home improvement stores, they pondered. And how would they handle gifts and seasonal items every household needs through the course of a year?

The Reed’s, like most of us, don’t simply stop into the store to pick up milk, or eggs. No, they get what they walked in to get, but a basket of other stuff, too. It’s expensive to be a frequent-buying consumer. Could they plan ahead well enough to make it through a whole year without spending? They decided to see if they were up to it by trying it for one month. One month with no exceptions. Not even gifts. Could they do it? They bought supplies for the month and then gritted their teeth.

They report that the first two weeks they sailed by. It was exciting to approach life like pioneers. They were self-sufficient and resourceful. But by week three they were drinking powdered milk and making creative salads as the lettuce was gone. In week four Donna ruined her last pair of pantyhose and opted to wear pants for work attire to finish out the month. Just when they were ready to give up on this crazy notion, they tallied the results. They’d spent less than half of what they normally spent in a month’s time.

Wow. Imagine that: They cut their expenses overall in half! Could they expand this way of life to three months? They could—they would. But not without some strategic planning. They calculated how much toilet tissue, cleaning supplies, dry goods, meat and other food staples they would need for three months based on past usage. And then they contemplated what you’ve been wondering: What about milk and produce? Gasoline? And what if they really wanted a meal out or a drive-thru experience? Their compromise: gift certificates. They bought a strategically planned number of $10 gift cards for their favorite drive-thru, gas station and supermarket and put the cards in a safe place.

Making it for three months was not nearly as difficult as they worried it would be—even with Thanksgiving landing in the middle of that time period. They’d planned ahead with a turkey in the freezer.

By the time the three months were about to end, they were asking “Can we make it a year? Soon they were plotting a big, one-time-only buying spree for the week after Christmas when lots of things are on sale.

The Reeds did complete a full year without spending and the fringe benefits are astounding. They did put the initial purchase on a credit card, but paid it off within three months. Over the next nine months, with the money they were not spending they were able to pay off all of their unsecured debts. They finished the year with only their mortgage.

All because they went a year without buying anything.

We adapted our own version of this strategy for six month periods:

1) We write down every penny we spend. Accountability makes you think before you spend.

2) We use cash or debit card only, unless we have a plan for paying off a credit purchase before we pay interest. We have successfully used our AMEX and Discover Card to earn points that can be used to pay off purchases and we earned a free car rental with some of our points. This takes major discipline.

3) We plan a major shopping trip every six months using the “bonus” of the extra payday that rolls

around twice a year because of the way paydays fall on the calendar. We purchase everything we need for the next six months including groceries, toiletries, cleaning products, birthday gifts, new underware, etc. The more we cover in this trip the less likely it is we will need to pick anything else up and be tempted. We also only shop at two stores to cover all of our needs. Running around to a lot of different stores does not save you money in the long run and it is exhausting. Part of the goal of this practice is to save time, as well as money. You might save a few dollars more going to several stores, but for me it just isn’t worth it. I have found where the best overall prices are in our town and stick to those two stores.

4) You will need to plan a basic “menu” for the time frame you are choosing to shop for. My menu consists of knowing I use chicken breasts, ground turkey, all kinds of seafood, certain canned items and frozen items consistently for our style of cooking. Practice will make perfect. After six years I only use my grocery list to tell me what I still have on hand so I don’t over buy product. I inventory all of my supplies before shopping and then I know what I need to bring everything back up to the six month level. If I decide to try a recipe that needs a special ingredient that falls into the next step.

5) We go to the grocery store or Farmer’s Market once a week on Saturday to pick up the few fresh or special items we need for the next week. This is done with cash in hand so we are not tempted by the “specials.” We do not buy anything else because the pantry is stocked for six months.

6) When we first started shopping this way 6 years ago we did not go to any other stores for the entire six months. Window shopping leads to impulse buying. Now we have become so addicted to the benefits this lifestyle that we can window shop without being tempted. We know the benefits of not making impulse purchases and plan ahead if we see something we really want. Usually by the time the next shopping period arrives we have forgotten or have decided we really don’t need it.

7) We have committed to live debt free and whenever we are tempted we remind each other of the commitment and the benefits we have lived.

8) We started a cash fund for emergencies separate from our savings in the bank. In case of a disaster we have access to at least some of our funds. We have a set amount for the cash fund to remain at. When we started out six years ago the amount we saved each month over these emergency funds and our regular savings was applied directly to our debt pay off. We no longer have the debt to pay off, so it all goes into savings now.

9) We set a goal to eat out once per payday. This makes it something to really look forward to instead of being just routine. There are always exceptions when the schedule gets crazy, but we don’t have to worry about how to pay for it, or put it on a credit card, because we now have the funds to pay cash. We do not go through drive-thrus just because it is convenient. We plan our time out running errands to eat before we leave the house or when we return home. Keep some granola bars, peanuts, or other snack in the car along with bottled water and it helps stop the drive-thru habit.

10) Plan your activities for each payday as well. If you like to go to the movie theater, choose carefully one movie a month and the rest of the time rent movies. Or plan 2 matinees in the month and save a bundle.

11) When we began six years ago we tried this plan for one month. When we came out $400 ahead of the previous month that was enough to convince us to shoot for a three month goal and it was easy to take the next step to six months. We have chosen not to use a one-year plan simply because we do not want that much meat in the freezer in case of a power outage and we simply don’t have the storage space. If you live in a small house or apartment a one month plan will still save you lots of money.

12) Determine needs vs. wants and pray about how God would have you apply these principles.

Good stewardship is the real “prosperity doctrine.”

Tip of the Day 4/18/12

Atmosphere and cleanliness are a couple of the things that attracts us to a restaurant. These are the same things that make the dining experience in our own home more enjoyable. I believe in cleaning up as I cook because I do not want to sit down to eat surrounded by dirty pots and pans. Setting the table is actually important to the enjoyment of the meal. This does not mean flowers and candles every night, but a set table draws the family to linger longer as the meal is served and enjoyed. It helps everyone to relax and really enjoy the time together and taste the food. How many times have you sat down to a meal and everyone is finished in 10 minutes and you think, "wow, it took an hour to prepare and it's all over." This is one area most European countries do right, they linger at the table. When the kids were still at home dinner was served at the table from serving dishes and we all cleared and washed up together. Yes, some nights it was well over an hour together and it was wonderful. Now that it is just Richard and I at home our meals are still sometimes an hour long. I serve the food in the kitchen to limit our portions, but I still set the table and use serving pieces for accompaniments, etc. An example is last Saturday morning I made biscuits and gravy, scrambled eggs and O'Brien potatoes. I put the eggs and potatoes on our plates and then the biscuits on a platter covered with a pretty cloth to keep them warm, the gravy in a gravy boat, jelly and butter in pretty little bowls, our juice in pretty stemware, and cloth napkins. We sat at the table for over an hour reading the paper, looking at the birds in the yard, and sipping tea and coffee after we finished eating. Did it take a little longer to clear the table and wash the dishes? Yes, about 5 minutes. Was it worth it? Every minute. We all have dishes, serving pieces, etc. that we think are just taking up space, but should be put to use on a regular basis. Pull out those cute salt and pepper shakers you got from your grandma and put them on the dinner table. They could spark some good conversation with the kids about your family history. Use items to serve the meal that relate to the food you are serving. We have traveled a lot and have things from many countries around the house. Since we eat a wide variety of food, I like to use dishes and items that compliment the food. If I am serving falafel I might put some stones from Israel on the table. It causes us to talk about our visit there. If we are having seafood I might use a bowl I picked up on a trip to the beach or decorate the table with a sarong and sea shells. A little piece like this can create an inviting atmosphere and cause you and the family to linger over the meal and enjoy each others company. Give it a try and enjoy the conversation as well as the food.

Word for Today, Rest: This seems to be an elusive concept in the lives of most people. Week days are so filled with work, school, and activity that even when we finally fall into bed at night we don't truly rest. Our minds don't shut down, so instead of just lying there we reach for our smart phone on the night stand next to the bed and play games or post on FB to other people who are also up in the middle of the night. This was never the plan for us. Last Sunday our message was about Jesus being asleep in the boat while the storm raged around them. I love the picture we are given that He was sound asleep with His head on a pillow. Haven't you jealously looked at a child who is sleeping in the stroller or carrier while the family is walking through Disney World and wished it was you. How does this type of rest happen? It is because of trust. Jesus knew the storm wouldn't harm them. He had told the disciples, "let's get in the boat and go to the other side." A baby trusts their parent so they can fall asleep without worry of harm. Jesus wants this same rest for us. He calls us to times of rest and our bodies were created to function best with a set number of hours of sleep each night. So take a real break, no electronics, and get some needed rest. It may take some practice and you may go through withdrawal, but it will be worth it. "This (Earth) is not your rest. This is what the Lord says, 'Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls.'" We stand at a crossroads, which path will you take?

Tip of the Day 4/17/12

As you consider ways to prepare more meals at home and healthier alternatives, one of the keys is variety. It is easy to get stuck in a rut of fixing the same meals over and over. One reason we go out to eat is variety. We need to bring variety into our home cooking as well. In recent years cooking shows have popped up everywhere on TV with at least two networks devoted to the topic of food. You can now Google a couple of ingredients you have on hand and you will be rewarded with recipes to fix using those ingredients. If you have tried a particular dish when eating out and would like to try to replicate it, again the computer is your friend. By joining sites like Pinterest there is an endless source of choices. Some days I not only feel like, "so many books, so little time" but now feel like, "so many recipes, so few meal times." Cooking is a very rewarding activity, you are being creative and active and preparing something wonderful to present to your family and friends to enjoy. Challenge yourself with recipes out of your comfort zone in preparation methods. It goes back to what I mentioned last week about learning something new everyday. If you are unsure of something just Google it and you will likely find a video to walk you through it. Several summers ago my husband and I took cooking lessons instead of a regular vacation. We learned a lot of new things, but with the limited time of the class it was hard to remember everything. So, I resorted to the internet to refresh my memory. I found a great video that showed me again how to use the steel we purchased to sharpen our knives, a close up of what chiffonade should look like, and a reminder of what a mirepoix is. So, go for it, and impress yourself with what you can do and "enjoy the fruits of your labor (of love)." Everyone else will also.

Word for Today, Singing: Music plays a major role in our lives. Mothers sing songs to their newborns, there are songs to teach children the alphabet, school programs always include songs, our church experience is filled with music, developing our own taste in music genres is one of the first acts of independence for adolescents, memories are triggered by particular songs, and music can help us escape the routine of life. I love every type of music (almost) and I credit my parents with instilling that love in me. There was always music playing in our home and there are some pretty awesome musicians in our family. I have sung in a choir or worship team or played in a band since I was a little girl. We had a conversation at Book Club last week about how important music is in our lives and how it can change even our outlook on a situation. Music was meant to be shared. We sing along with the radio and if we are at a concert we can't seem to stop ourselves from singing along. The awesome thing is the Creator of music actually wants us to sing, all the time, He loves it. We are even told to "make a joyful noise," so even if you think you can't sing, you have no excuse. :) "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly...singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord."

Tip of the Day 4/16/12

I am a firm believer that one of the causes of so many of the health issues Americans face are directly related to our eating habits. We eat too many processed foods, too many meals out instead of home-cooked, we eat too fast and too much, not often enough (skipping meals) or too often (junk all day and no real meal). We have forgotten the pleasure and benefits of sitting down and enjoying the food. Food was given to us to nourish our bodies and the time spent eating it should nourish our spirits. Purpose to spend at least one meal a day sitting and eating slowly. Prepare home cooked meals. If you are single invite someone to join you one evening a week. They will appreciate it as much as you will. This week we will look at several ways to add joy to meal time. Today decide on a special meal you would like to prepare one evening this week (it can be the weekend) and begin planning for it. Make a list of the ingredients you will need and who will take part in the meal. We will look at preparation, atmosphere, etc. in the next few days.

Word for Today, Might: Each day we face situations that can drain us of our might. It seems we are not strong enough to stand in the face of so much that comes our way. Often we waver under the pressure and fall because of the burdens. But there is One who desires to carry the burdens and Whose might will never fail in the battle. Look to Him and roll your burdens onto Him. "No, not by might, nor even power, but by Thy Spirit, O God. Our Redeemer is strong. I, the Lord, am your Savior, and your Redeemer, Mighty to save."

Tip of the Day 4/14/12

Here is a final tip this week for enjoying the green for little or no green. Spending enjoyable time outdoors can be enhanced by containerizing the items commonly needed and not having to look for them each time you head outdoors. A backyard bin is a great way to accomplish this. Fill the container with everything from cloth napkins to bug spray and bandaids, anything that people commonly have to "run back inside for." This saves on the power bill in the summer and also keeps the flies out of the house. Your time will be much more enjoyable without having to look for everything you want to use each time you head outside. Having an "outdoor container" always at the ready will encourage you to actually be outdoors. There are several great options to use for the container; if you have a large enough deck area there are containers designed for a deck that double as a bench for extra seating, a plastic tub works great, but one of the most fun and prettiest to use is a picnic basket. So, get ready and let's spend the next few months outside. Life is too short to spend it inside on the couch.

Word for Today, Sand: It is funny that even when we don't grow up by, or live near the beach, we are drawn to it. We love to dig our feet in the sand as we sit on the beach and we build sandboxes in our yards for our children to dig in. It is amazing and fascinating to let the sand fall through our fingers and examine the sparkles and colors which are different in each handful. It takes special equipment to count just a handful. I personally love the mystery and wonder, the feel and the comfort as I am surrounded by the sand on our, or any other, beach. It is as amazing as the waves that come crashing in from The Lake or ocean. I love that God's thoughts for me are said to be more than the sand and too numerous to count. I love serving and being loved by a God too big to contain, fathom, or understand. The wonder is part of the joy. "How precious...are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them! If I could count them, they would be more in number than the sand." The next time you sit on the beach don't try to figure out the mystery, bask in it.

Tip of the Day 4/12/12

It is rare I recommend containerizing items and even more rare for me to recommend purchasing containers. In pursuit of going green, by saving some green, to enjoy the green, I am recommending some containerizing, but, sorry big box stores, no purchase needed. If you do not have one or more empty baskets sitting in a garage, closet, cupboard, or basement, you are in the minority of Americans. Being in this majority will help you organize your outdoor space, and that can be very rewarding. Over the years I have been given plants and cheese selections that came packaged in baskets and I am sure you have as well. Any time I receive a gift in a basket I consider what it can be used for. Some are obviously designed to be re-used for a specific purpose, but others take a little imagination. I have a handled basket that is divided perfectly for silverware and napkins. I keep it stocked all the time and can pull it out for use on any occasion. When the kids were still at home I left it out on the counter with paper plates through the whole week between Christmas and New Years. We didn't do dishes for the whole week. Now I keep it out when company is visiting for easy access for them and more free time to pursue fun. It is easily taken out for gatherings in the back yard and can be switched out with good silver instead of plastic depending on the type of dinner party. Baskets can hold party favors for your guests, individual packets of condiments are fun to include on a buffet table, or be creative using them as decor on the table holding cloth napkins, flowers, conversation starters, etc. Along with baskets, use the other pieces you have collected or been handed down over the years, napkin rings add a touch of fun, serving bowls that you only use on holidays can be put into service throughout the summer for a dressed up tablescape. Take the good glassware and china outside. Make a pot of tea using the tea pot sitting in the cabinet and serve it on a tray with china cups. Think of creative uses for the "containers" just sitting around the house and spend time outside enjoying all the beauty of the things you have collected, as well as creation. They can really enhance each other.

Word for Today, Knowledge: It has been said that throughout your life you should learn one new thing a day. This will help keep your mind strong and give you more purpose each day. The older I get, the more I want to learn. I love discovering something I have never known before, learning a new skill, tasting a new food, seeing a new place, or meeting new people. There is so much this world has to offer and it can become a distraction from the only knowledge that will matter for eternity. The knowledge that is life changing is found in the pages of God's Word and listening to His voice teach me truths to live by. I have read the Bible completely through every year for many years and have sat through Bible studies since I was a little girl, but every time I open God's Word I see something new. It is alive and vibrant and contains the words of life. "My purpose is that (you) may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that (you) may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that (you) may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge. Teach me Your way, O Lord. Let us pursue the knowledge of the Lord."

Tip of the Day 4/11/12

After living in the upper mid-west for over 25 years I have become accustomed to the fickleness of the weather. We get all excited when it hits 60 degrees and we pull out our shorts and head to the beach. Yesterday it snowed. LOL But we have thick blood flowing in our veins and still believe it is Spring and Summer is soon to follow. So, we will continue our trek this week of going green, while saving some green, so we can go outside and enjoy the green. When we purchased our home the yard needed some work. Previous owners had planted a few things in a bed in front of the house, but they were oddly placed and very few. We did not have much in the budget to landscape, so we took advantage of every time we heard someone say they had plants they were thinning and wanted to give away. By accepting these offers of recycled plants we now have a yard filled with day lillies, ornamental grasses, hostas, azaleas, and more. We moved the plants in the front bed around to better locations and even picked up some ornamental grasses at a garage sale for just a few dollars. In the spot where we took down an above ground swimming pool and affectionately named the UFO landing pad for a couple of summers, we now have a beautiful bed with plants we purchased off the clearance rack for 50 cents each. They are huge and need to be thinned this year. We have added decorative items picked up from the beach or yard sales. A fountain we found on clearance for $10 has been in the yard for 5 years. Several years ago my husband brought home a wicker rocking chair a friend was throwing out, painted it blue because I love the Kenny Chesney song, and placed it in the garden. It was a delightful, free addition that the birds love to perch on. We love to sit and enjoy the peaceful atmosphere we have created in the yard for very little money. Look around and create an oasis in your outdoor space for only a little green.

Word for Today, Words: How many times have you said something and instantly wished you could take it back? Or maybe you said something that you intended one way, but it was received in a totally different way? It has happened to all of us and we can obsess about it or we can apologize and move forward. In moving forward we need to take with the lesson learned, think more, speak less. We need to learn to listen more and not fall into the trap of always needing to speak our opinion. Learning comes by listening and when we have learned we will speak with wisdom. "In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise. Be swift to hear and slow to speak. Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips."

Tip of the Day 4/10/12

Day two of going green, while saving some green, to enjoy the green. If you enjoy spending the warm days and evenings outdoors it makes sense to put effort into making the space homey and enjoyable. You have probably heard the term "outdoor room" and it is possible to create this type of a space without spending a fortune, but re-purposing things you already have. We have a small deck where we eat almost every meal from breakfast to dinner throughout the warm months. We have tall lattice surrounding a portion of it for privacy. This provides a wall to decorate and brighten the space. For the past few weeks I have been looking for a bold colored decorative piece to hang and when getting something out of a closet I noticed a plaque a granddaughter had painted for us a few years ago. The colors were too bright for any room in my house, but perfect for my outdoor room. After a few coats of protective sealer, I have a perfect piece on the wall. Look around and see what you have not being used that could move outdoors. Other great items to re-purpose for outdoor use are sarongs for table coverings, doillys or decorative scarves etc. that might have been handed down from a family member used as placemats, the odd collection of dinner plates saved over the years can make great chargers. If the item is just sitting in a drawer or closet, take it out and use it. You have kept it for a reason, you like it or can't stand the thought o parting with it. Use up your odds and ends of napkins, paper plates, and candles for an eclectic setting. Nature is the real beauty we want to behold, but we can bring some fun into the mix.

Word for Today, Perfection: Since the beginning of time people have sought perfection. It is why, no matter the economy, people still buy the newest cream for wrinkles, put themselves through the torture of botox, live on food stamps but have manicures and pedicures, purchase magazines filled with pictures of what our bodies and homes need to look like, and are never satisfied. We all want to look and be our best, and this is a good thing. We need to take care of ourselves and live a healthy lifestyle, taking care of our body and possessions is the right thing to do. Striving for perfection on this earth, however, will only lead to discouragement. Our bodies will never look like the airbrushed/photo shopped pictures in the magazines. Our homes will never look like Candice Olsen or David Bromstad just finished designing a room. We live in a world where things get dusty, wrinkles happen, and spare tires appear. Our call is to be a good steward of our body and the things that we are blessed to possess, but not worship them. We will reach perfection one day and it will be of no work on our own, but because of the perfect work of Jesus' death and resurrection. We will have a perfect body and perfect home to live in forever. (I have put in a request that when I get my new body in heaven I have long, straight, blond hair and be tall enough to reach the top shelves without using a step stool. My silly ideas of the perfect body. LOL) "Behold you are fair my love. There is no spot in you. You are complete in Him. Perfect in Christ Jesus."

Tip of the Day 4/9/12

Now that Spring Break is behind for most everyone we can start thinking about how to enjoy our outdoor space and live green in the green while saving some green. Most of us have empty mason jars or vases sitting around the house, lurking in the basement, or on a shelf in the garage. Let's take them out and put them to good use. As you know my philosophy for Dee-Clutter is not finding a way to store things, but finding a use for everything or getting rid of it. These jars and vases are great items to recycle into candle holders for the deck, or house, by simply placing some rocks or shells you picked up over Spring Break this year (or maybe 3 years ago) into the bottom of the container. Add a votive, taper, or battery operated candle and you have a great new decorative piece for no cost. Add a rope or wire around the lip of the jar with a loop to hang and you have a great lantern. Combine sizes and shapes to create a pretty tablescape while dining al fresco or hang varying sizes around your deck. Consider citronella candles and add to the collection of tiki torches you use.

Word for Today, Fear: Sadly we live in a time when it seems there is so much to fear. We fear the lose of a job, the safety of our children, will we, or someone we love, be the victim of a random shooting, will our town be the next one struck by a tornado, and on and on. If we watch the news it is easy to just think it would be easier to hide and not face whatever is lurking "out there." After Jesus crucifixtion the disciples hid because they were fearful. But once they knew the truth of Jesus resurrection they went out into the world with a boldness it is hard to imagine. They couldn't be quiet no matter how often they were told to stop declaring Jesus' name. God's Word tells us we have nothing to fear, "In this world you will have trouble, but I have overcome the world. Fear not, for I have redeemed you. Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed." Jesus knew we would face terrible situations and that we would have times of fear, but He provides the peace and power we can cling to in those times. He is our Good Shepherd caring for us. "Fear not little flock, for it is the Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom. The fear of the Lord is pure, enduring forever."

Tip of the Day 4/7/12

As we prepare to celebrate Resurrection Sunday it is easy to vet caught up in the eggs, and bunnies, and candy, and new clothes and forget the real meaning of the day. This year try adding an activity to the celebration that will remind you and teach others. This is a delicious recipe that will do just that.

Easter Story Cookies
(to be made the evening before Easter)

1 cup whole pecans
1 tsp. Vinegar
3 egg whites
1 cup sugar
Pinch salt
Zipper baggie
Wooden spoon
Masking tape
Bible

Preheat oven to 300 degrees. (do not wait to do this)

Place pecans in zipper baggie and beat them with the wooden spoon to break into small pieces. After Jesus was arrested He was beaten by the Roman soldiers. John 19: 1-3.

Smell the vinegar. Put into mixing bowl. When Jesus was thirsty on the cross He was given vinegar to drink. John 19: 28-30.

Add egg whites to the vinegar. Eggs represent life. Jesus gave His life to give us eternal life. John 10: 10-11.

Taste the salt and then place a pinch into the mixing bowl. This represents the salty tears shed by Jesus' followers, and the bitterness of our own sin. Luke 23: 27.

So far the ingredients have not been very appetizing. Now add the sugar and see that the sweetest part of the story is that Jesus died because He loves us. He wants us to know Him and belong to Him. Psalm 34: 8 and John 3: 16.

Beat with a mixer on high speed for 12 - 15 minutes until stiff peaks form. The color white represents the purity in God's eyes of those whose sins have been cleansed by Jesus. Isaiah 1: 18 and John 3: 1-3.

Fold in broken nuts. Drop by teaspoons full onto waxed paper covered cookie sheet. Each mound represents the rocky tomb where Jesus' body was laid. Matthew 27: 57-60.

Place cookie sheet in oven, close the door, and turn the oven OFF.

Take a piece of tape and seal the door closed. Jesus' tomb was sealed. Matthew 27: 65-66.

Go to bed and explain to children that we may feel sad not getting to finish the cookies and having to wait for them is like Jesus' followers being sad when the tomb was sealed and they has to leave Jesus behind. John 16: 20 and 22.

On Easter morning open the oven and give everyone a cookie. Notice the cracked surface and then take a bite. The cookies are hollow. The disciples were amazed to find the tomb open and empty on the first Easter morning. Matthew 28: 1-9.

Word for Today, Rejoice: Throughout our lives we experience times of rejoicing and times of sorrow. It is always amazing that in the midst of sorrow we can find ourselves laughing. When we are walking through the valley of the shadow of death as when a loved one passes and we laugh over times we remember it seems strange and yet it is so right. As we experience the emotions of this weekend of remembrance of our Savior, beaten to the point of being unrecognizable, then hung on a cross to suffer the most hideous of deaths, we rejoice in the knowledge that He triumphed over death. We rejoice in the knowledge of who He is and all He did and is still doing for us. I don't know if there is a name for this day between Christ's death and His resurrection, but I rejoice in what He was doing on this day, ushering those that had died before into Heaven which was now open for all that had looked for His coming and for all that would trust in Him from that point on. Even in death Jesus was working on our behalf. "As sorrowful, yet always rejoicing. In a great trial of affliction. The abundance of their joy abounded. Believing, you rejoice with joy inexpressible."

Tip of the Day 4/6/12

As we remember the death of Jesus today on Good Friday this is a good time to take a look at the sacrifices we are willing to make for others. Make a list of those things you would like to do for others and never seem to have the time for. This is a great day to make a commitment to those good things. Jesus gave up everything for you and there are so many people in our lives that need the touch of a kind word or deed. Who can you touch?

Word for Today, Comfort-Zone: Throughout our lives we all encounter situations that ask/require us to step out of our personal comfort-zone. Over the years I have taken what were for me risks and can look back and know I did those things by the grace of God. Adopting our 4 daughters, homeschooling, becoming a Pastor's wife and teaching Bible Studies, singing on the worship team and playing the flute, moving to Africa and running a guest house, starting my own company and doing public speaking, writing a version of an advice column, friending people on FB that I went to school with, all of these are out of my comfort-zone and are only a few of the things in my life that fit that category. But what I experience within myself each time I take what I see as a major step is NOTHING compared to the step Jesus took when he made the choice to not just come to earth, but in the Garden of Gethsemane submitted to His Father's will to die on the cross for you and me. He stepped out of His comfort-zone of the very throne room of heaven and the reality that His Father would not be able to even look at Him as our sins were placed on Him. Only by His choice having first been made on my behalf am I able to be who I am today. Without His death I am nothing. I am strong, I am brave, I am confident in who I am today because of Who He is and what He did for me. He paid a debt He didn't owe; beaten, scorned, rejected, and deserted, but risen again and now seated at the right hand of the Father standing up for me. How can you say "no" to this man? "I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that day. It is Christ who died...through Him we access to the Father." Today is indeed Good Friday.